When you feel lost and lonely and NO one is around to help, be assured that you are never alone. With my song “THE THREE OF US”, I want to remind lonely and hopeless people of all ages, generations, and religions to never lose their faith. When you are down, and I mean really down (for whatever reason!) and fighting depression or any kind of other mental illness, it’s hard to see the light at the end of the long and dark tunnel. And when people say this will go by, you only get more upset and feel misunderstood.
I’m sure you have heard the saying “When one door closes another one opens.” I remember how this saying made me furious for many years. What am I saying? For decades!!! Because the truth is not only were ALL the doors closed and not one single door was ever opened, the doors were actually slammed into our faces with the ridiculous refugee law and all the discriminating bureaucracy obstacles.
The saying means if one thing you do fails, you will soon have an opportunity to try to succeed at something else. NOPE! Not in our case. As a rejected asylum seeker, later refugee, and foreigner in a narrow-minded country with its condescending mentality and culture towards foreigners in general every single chance and opportunity was and is denied. Do you know why? Because no one cares! Selfish and Godless rule makers enjoy punishing desperate people who are already down.
I’m pretty sure that many people who have or will be experiencing what we have experienced will slowly but surely break down. Life challenges either break you or make you. Thank God, today after three difficult decades I can say that I’m proud that the difficulties made us who we are today and didn’t manage to break us.
Finally, after three decades, I do recognize that despite all the mess, there were a few open doors. The only difference is that no one opened a door for us. We were the ones who opened them for ourselves because we never ever gave up and continued to fight for our rights and dignity.
Today we see closed doors as a blessing because the more rejection we have experienced the more determined we were to keep on fighting. Fighting means growing! Just recently I said to my mum, do you realize that if this and that actually did work out in the past or if people who have turned their back on us and left for good still would be around our life, our motivation and energetic hunger to achieve our goals would have been a completely different one. That’s why I encourage people who are experiencing difficult times to write a Thank you letter to God and count the blessings they have right now (even if you find it hard to see them, trust me they are around). Remember that there are always people who suffer and struggle more and they do it in silence.
Just be happy and grateful for what you have today and God will reward you. It may take years or even decades, but you will see that everything is happening for a reason. All the NOs, disappointments, rejections, and failures are shaping you and preparing you for something greater than your wildest dreams and imagination. Write an honest and personal letter to God. Make a copy of it. Burn the actual letter and keep the copy somewhere safe. Prepare yourself for unexpected and positive surprises in the future!