Merry Christmas to you and your loved ones. 2020 has been an extremely challenging and difficult year for all of us. On this special Christmas holiday, our thoughts and prayers are with the forgotten and lonely souls in the refugee camps, shelters, orphanages, retirement homes, and hospitals.
Let’s hope and pray for a better 2021 for everyone. And here are the Lessons and Reminders for myself for 2021!
Be grateful for what you have and for what you don’t have! How often do we complain about the things that we don’t have in life? Too many times! Instead, we should focus on the blessings that we have and never ever compare our life with others. Because let’s face it, we never really know what people are going through. Most of us are struggling in one way or the other. Some have serious mental and health issues, others have financial problems and are struggling to survive. And the worst ones are those who are either lonely or stuck in toxic relationships! So reminder for myself: Be grateful regardless of what you think you miss in your life!
Distance yourself from negative and toxic people. They are poison for your mind, heart, and soul. When you are going through a difficult time like in 2020, you realize even more how important it is to be surrounded by positive and optimistic people. The last thing you need is more negativity! A reminder for myself: Surround yourself only with people with positive energy. People who lift your spirit and don’t knock you more down than you already are!
You can’t fix broken relationships unless both sides really care and act. This is a lesson that apparently I have to remind myself over and over again. When you are young and still clueless about life, you never think that the difficulties of life will separate you from your family. You never think that new partners and relationships, a circle of friends, jobs and life circumstances, and obstacles will destroy relationships to your blood-related family until reality hits you and you wonder what happened and how you missed the fallout.
This was an unusual year and I think like many other people I tried to reconnect with my family members living across the globe. Even those who have hurt and disappoint me in the past. And yes I learned my lesson once again. People who have hurt you in the past will hurt you again. People who have disappointed you will disappoint you gain. People who didn’t care about you in the past won’t care for you in the present. People who have been disrespectful to you will be disrespectful again. It is what it is! People don’t change! They keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again! The sooner we accept this, the less we suffer! The sooner we stop them from hurting and disappointing us again the wiser! A reminder for myself: Blood makes you related but love and loyalty make you family. And when there is no loyalty, there is no family! For the Love of God STOP fixing broken relationships with family members, who couldn’t care less about you and your well-being!