Each one of us has a story to tell and everyone we meet is fighting a battle we know nothing about. This section “The Q & A Interview with inspiring people” is dedicated to exceptional personalities, who either have something to educate us or to inspire us.
Today I want you to meet American Author Rick Amitin. He has recently published his memoir IF ONLY I HAD A DAD - Finding Freedom From Fatherlessness (My journey to discover me) and the Companion Workbook (Your journey to discover you). I had the honor to talk to him about this beautifully written book and his desire to help his readers to heal.
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NAME: Rick AmitinGENRE: Memoir/ Inspiration/Personal Transformation
WEBSITE & BLOG: www.RickAmitin.com
Rick welcome to my blog series “Interview with Inspirational people”. I chose your memoir “If only I had a dad” to kick off my blog series 2017, because your book is very close to my heart.
I always believe that people meet for a reason, despite distance, age and life stories. You and I met on Facebook. And I had no clue about your life neither about your book that was published just recently in December 2016.
I haven’t read your whole book yet, but it is on my to-read list! I read the Companion Workbook though. And trust me it couldn’t be on a more appropriate time than now, where I myself was looking for my father’s love in the past two years, only to be rejected again! Ok, let’s start the interview.
Rick, please tell me a little about yourself and your professional background?
I grew up in a small town in northern Indiana. Joined the military at an early age. I became a barber while pursuing ministry. Travelled for several years, speaking around the world, and pastoring churches. Eventually I built a multimillion dollar insurance business in Los Angeles. I took some time out to find myself in writing and speaking.
I read on your Author biography that you see yourself as a product of broken home(s). Because you were abandoned by your father and had three step-fathers by the time you were nine years old. I know how it feels like to have a step-father. I think this deep scar never heals. Would you say writing about your painful experiences helped your scars to heal?
Writing my book is the most healing I have ever experienced. I didn’t even know the depth of my emptiness until I was deep into the writing process. I discovered answers. Not to every detail, but to foundational issues. I share my discoveries in my book. We all have our specific stories but healing is universal.
When and why did you decide to write a memoir? And how long did you work on it?
I wanted to write my entire life but never acted on it. In fact, I was discouraged from writing by a mentor who thought I didn’t have anything to say. When my grandson was in the womb, and I knew his father was not going to be in his life, I decided to write my book. My inspiration grew out of my pain from a missing father and my desire to minimize my grandson’s potential pain. I’m sorry to say it took two years. I like to say I drafted ten books on my way to writing one.
You wrote “If only I had a dad” not only to heal your soul but also to help others. Reading the introduction in the Companion Workbook touched me, inspired me and made me feel good about myself and my self-doubts. You say you are here to help others in their personal transformation. Why do you have the desire to help?
I believe our desire to help others is rooted in a very intimate desire to help ourselves. I also believe what you receive in life is never just for you. I give away what is not mine to keep. In the same way, physical therapy proves restorative health, sharing what you have learned, proves what you have obtained is real and builds confidence.
I visited your blog https://rickamitin.com and a quote caught attention: “When my grandson dropped out of heaven I became a man!” This is such a beautiful and hopeful message of Love for your grandson. What do you think why is it that your children didn’t make you become a man but your grandson did?
I make the joke, when the grandkids come along your kids are obsolete. As a grandfather, I am older, wiser, and able to be more deliberate. I understand more about what kids need and how they’re shaped. I was still trying to figure things out, trying to conquer the world, when we were raising our kids. I’m more settled now.
How would you describe yourself today as a father to your children? Did you give them the love and attention that you never had and desperately needed?
I’m very committed to being the father my grown children need. I don’t meddle, at least not too much. I was very affectionate and spent time with my kids when they were growing up. But, I was a driven man, and a bit angry, with unresolved issues from my own childhood. I kept us together and broke the cycle of abandonment. They are productive citizens with caring hearts. My kids ask my advice and want to spend time with me. so, I think we’re in a good place. I still get excited when they call me dad.
Another beautiful quote by you: “We come from Love, we are Love, and we must give Love away. When we don’t understand the power and impact of this foundation, it can be nearly impossible to live a free and abundant life. “ What a beautiful way to see Life. Living in a loveless and selfish world like ours makes one forget the meaning and power of Love. What is your definition of Love in three words? What is your definition of Love in one sentence?You are worthy! You are worthy of love, abundance, and to be celebrated.
"I believe our desire to help others is rooted in a very intimate desire to help ourselves."
Listen Rick, I predict a huge success with your book and I tell you why. I believe there are many readers out there who will relate to your story but also there are many broken souls out there who need to heal. Your book and the companion workbook are so great, that I actually ordered a copy of both as a birthday gift for a family member. My question is where do you see your writing going? Are you working on a second book?
Thank you for that encouragement, Lily. Boy, do I ever hope you are right. I have several books at various points of development. I wrote a number of poems during the writing of “If Only Had A Dad.” I’m considering doing a short Poetry Book. Titles are subject to change, as we all know, but right now I want to write a book called “Altared” dealing with my journey through religion into spirituality.
You live in beautiful San Francisco. I imagine offering seminars to help others is a fantastic way of interacting with you readers. Are there any specific plans or dates in 2017? Can you imagine doing a Book tour in Europe?
I’m working to put together a platform for online classes, a private group environment where it’s safe to talk about real issues, and build a community that will support personal empowerment. I hope to get it all done and still have time to develop some workshops and speaking engagements this year. I would love to tour Europe.
Now that you see yourself as completely healed what wishes, goals and desires do you have for your writing and personal future?
I don’t see myself as either unique or special. What kept me chained to dysfunction and self-destructive patterns were the lies I believed and the wrong stories I mentally wrote about my life events. We are all very much the same when it comes to handling trauma, especially early traumatic events, like rejection or abandonment. We are a heck of a lot closer to abundant living than we realize. What it takes is a willingness to rewrite our stories to give a more accurate accounting of our personal truths.
Now last but not least I need you to give me some quick answers:
YOUR DESIRE: I want every person to know they are worthy of the best life possible.YOUR ADVICE: If you want to write, then start writing, and never stop.
YOUR GENRES: I read inspiration, memoirs, and personal transformation and do my best to support others.
YOUR QUOTE: Follow your passion, purpose will find you, and clarity will give you a home – Rick AmitinYOUR FAVORITE AUTHOR: Wayne Dyer – The Power of Intention
Rick it is a pleasure to have you as my first Inspirational Interview partner in 2017 on my blog. I wish you the best of luck with your memoir. I know your story will heal and help many readers around the world. I hope you will be so successful that you can translate your memoir into other languages. And when you become a bestselling Author please don’t forget Lily! :-)
My pleasure, Lily. And, thanks for having me. I think you are quite wonderful and generous. My desire is for all your dreams to come true. You are worthy of a rich, rewarding, and abundant life! Rick
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